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Des Norwood's avatar

I see you as an undeniable force. Your words are potent and honest and bring me right into your world. No matter how different it might be from my own, you manage to make connection. 🤍

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I'm going to actually comment about this because we do come from two different worlds -- not the black and white obvious worlds people are too quick to throw around -- but more of a youth and age, generational thing. I'm not what you'd call techie as far as social media goes. I'm one of this world's old dinosaurs. I don't even have a cell phone. I've never been a big presence online until just recently. I got on Facebook to follow my daughter when her and her bestie went to Thailand after graduating from high school. They both had part time jobs and saved up for what was the trip of a life time. The only way of keeping in contact was through Facebook.

I was so new to the computer world then, I didn't understand what was possible. I didn't blog; I didn't even know what it was. I just wrote stories that were too long to send in to conventional publishers. I limited myself, and because of that, I never got on Instagram, or Tumbler, or Reddit; I didn't understand them and didn't see the purpose. I got on Twitter too late for it to matter. As for everything else, I didn't even know they existed. I stumbled across Substack, and having come here, well, simply don't plan on ever leaving. I have nothing to compare it to. I've read some complaints people have...the hate, the phobias, and just shake my head in disbelief. I don't care if they hate me, or don't read me, or think I'm an old stick in the mud fuck who is lost in time. That's not my issue, but theirs. If you don't like what you read, turn the page.

I believe you make what you will with what you have. I don't have a lot of anything when it comes to Social Media etiquette. All I know how to do is write. My own children don't even read me anymore. My daughter says I'm too Politically Incorrect because I'll write a story from a female point of view; or a gay person's outlook. She says I don't understand what cultural misappropriation is, and I tell her I didn't even know it was a thing. I wrote a story about a Black boxer, as seen through the eyes of his niece. It had nothing to do with colour, or culture. It was just a story.

I might not be everyone's cup of tea, but then again, I don't think anything I write is going to cause a cultural meltdown. It's not that I've seen too much, but I have seen a few things. I mean, I grew up watching the Vietnam War on TV and the Civil Rights demonstrations. A child of the 60's, I watched them land on the moon. Did I question it and think it was fake? Never even crossed my mind. I guess that makes me naive. But I like what I write and put it out without thinking I should be adding "trigger" warnings. I don't do that because I don't think anything I write is traumatizing to that degree. If I write about what I saw on TV as a child, how is it traumatizing?

So when I came to Substack, it was after having been on the one and only other platform I'd ever been on: Vocal.media, which was a bust because there was too much censorship. The fact you can write what you write here is a blessing as far as I'm concerned. The other site told me I was glorifying rape because I had a married couple in a story that were taking part in rôle playing sex games. Who needs that kind of shit? If I want to write a story about missionaries in Manchuria during the Japanese invasion, why can't I? Is that Cultural Misappropriation because I'm an old white guy writing about some time in history that no one reading it even understands in the first place? Substack offers me freedom, and that's something I'm not willing to give up.

I don't look at social media the same way others do, because I haven't been tainted by it. That might be my one saving grace as far as that goes. I don't read hate speech. I don't weigh in on the political ramifications and the contentious views others have. If I do say something about the situation down South across the border (I'm Canadian), I quite often hear from a Trumpster-diver who points out that whatever I say is untrue simply because it is fake news. I call him The Felon, and they get upset with me. But it's Substack and I can say what I want, right? I like to think...within reason. As far as I'm concerned, Substack is the answer to all our needs. I say, on my ABOUT page that it's all right if you don't like me. I also tell them if you subscribe to my PAID page and decide to leave, don't ask me for your money back because it doesn't work like that. I don't give refunds. The only reason is because I can't be bothered with that shit. That's why I like reading you. You don't take shit from anyone.

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